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Rejection is painful. To feel rejected can be heart breaking. And we have all experienced this pain. Whether we were rejected in a romantic relationship, or we didn’t get that job, when you deeply believed that it was meant to be- but the feeling was not mutual, this is part of life.
But sometimes, after you have had some time and space you might come to realize that the rejection was in fact a redirection, and that changes – as painful as they might be, may pave a different and often better path. I also want to recognize that we can learn from our mistakes, find meaning in our suffering, and that if you have a big dream, you can always try again.
This image was taken the day after I found out that I was rejected from Rabbinical school.
Coincidentally- that same week, a Reality TV show producer reached out to see if he could shoot a reel about the wild work that I do to light people up with fashion.
While you see a huge smile on my face, and I’m there in all my colors, what you don’t see is all the emotions I was feeling.
My heart was shattered. This was something I’d really wanted and envisioned for myself.
At the same time- I wondered if this rejection was a redirection- because perhaps if I got in- would I have felt the need to tame and cage and filter myself?
After months of therapy and a year later, I thought I’d moved on from that dream. But the truth is- I’m not so sure.
What I am sure about though- is that every day is a new day, and we can always make the choice to chase whatever we want.
Maybe one day- I’ll reapply. But I sure as hell will never filter myself.
Because I think the biggest gift I learned through this rejection- is that I always have to be me and focus on what lights me up- and do more of the things that make me happy, and I will not dim my sparkle or hold myself back- regardless of what hat I wear or what title I hold.
I realize I’m not for everyone, and that’s OK.
I won’t internalize it, or take it to heart.
Someone else’s opinions of me are none of my business, and the truth is if you try to make everyone happy- you’ll lose yourself.
My Grandmother – Bubbie, wrote me a note when I was a kid- she’s been gone for over a decade but I still read this note every day:
“Channel the goals of your dreams and go for it!
Persevere and remember that if your path becomes unclear, changes may lead to even higher achievements.
With your creative mind and G-ds help, I know that you will succeed.
Keep busy, be kind and fair to others, and trust in G-d.”

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You can reach me at Evey@LetYourselfSparkle.com
I used to think it was selfish to focus on self care, but then I realized that when you show up with good energy, your light inspires the light to force its way out of others so that they can let themselves sparkle too. You are an instrument of change, adding so much light to the world.

Special thanks to Cathy Heller and her podcast “Don’t Keep Your Day Job” for the inspiration to put this show together, and for her song Gonna Make a Change which is featured in the episode.